Hey Stepmom, your job as a stepparent isn’t to be a perfect stepparent.
Your job isn’t to be a superhuman.
You’re not even called to replicate the biological parent!!
And above all, remember — you’re definitely not supposed to be the ultimate “meeter of every need.”
No. God made that child and He knows them inside and out. He knows their personalities, their insecurities, their hearts. He knows what they need and the right timing to tackle different obstacles.
He also knows YOU and why YOU are the right one for this particular job!
So what is your job?
It’s to be the stepmom God has called you to be.
Your job is to seek wisdom and tools as to how to love your family and even love yourself. It’s not to be a perfect person or create the perfect family that always gets along. That’s not possible and it’ll just leave you frustrated when it doesn’t happen.
Instead, it’s to serve and give and teach and model and apologize…even when it seems like a dead end road. And your job is to pray…for the needs and flaws and desires of your family.
Then look inward. Who are YOU?? Who are you beyond your stepmom title? What are your passions? Interests? What do you want to learn?
Find ways to use your passions to help others or bless people outside your family. Include your stepkids if you want…or do it alone! Your stepkids are watching what makes you happy and feel excited in life.
And guess what?
That happiness spills out onto your family. Of course there will be good days and bad days; good years and bad years.
Give grace and love even when it doesn’t feel good. Know that today’s problem doesn’t define you as a bad stepmom or your child as a lost cause.
It’s not your job to be perfect. It’s to be the stepmom God has called YOU to be. Flawed but humble. Ready to learn, and ready to love.
